Heart Broke

Im writing this letter to express in thoughts and feelings in writing. After witnessing the events of this last year, of what can happen to a man that built a family and had it crushed by someone so cold and heartless. In this letter I hope all people, men and women can find hope and inspiration in there darkest hours. I always see people post for help here and I thought  write I would write for my brother and others to show them it does get worse but there are brighter days ahead.

This is the story of my brothers last year. Names and subjects will be changed to protect his newborn son. This all started 2 years ago but it did not come to a head untill this past winter. His wife had been running around on him for almost a year. he married young. gave up all of the things and dreams he worked hard for all his life to start a family with someone who at first we come to find out lied about her age. He gave up his well earned home based business, that made a honest few extra dollars every month. Because she said it took up to much of his time from her. He worked a full time job, a good paying job at that. sold his classic car he saved up for from a young age of hard work instilled by his father. All to buy the American dream. a house on a little piece of land they could call there own. He spent almost 2 years of working nights at the shop and going home to there lot, building there dream home.  Now when they first got married they all sat down at the table to write down "what my brother had to do to have kids" she wanted a new SUV. He got it. She needed a big custom house to fill the needs of a newborn baby. He built it from the ground up. They tried for years and a baby never blessed them

After years of trying and money starting to dry up. Things started to go down hill for this little family. He got her a good paying job where he worked his long hours, and he finally thought he'd get a brake from all the long weeks of making ends meet, but that was just opening the door for her to find a new life to ruin. Now my brother would never approve of me doing this. but after watching him today have to give up his dog of 5 years broke my heart. I watched him, a grown man ball like a little school girl, this hit a deep cord of me and a man who had literally lost everything. and we will get to that part in a few.

Now somewhere around October of last year his wife stopped coming home on weekends. she said she needed her space and time to grow and think about there relationship. My brother went to countless hours of marriage counseling alone and with her to try to save there little family. He had raised her son from a young man to the age of 18, and wasn't willing to just give up. One October night she let the wind out of his sails. She called and said not to come home, that she had started a new life and he wasn't part of it. She had been cheating with a co-worker while he slaved to pay the bills.

And unknowing to the family my brother slept and lived in his car for 7 days while his wife was getting her new life in order. Her family had connections in local government. The cops made sure he didn't come home. When he was able to finally return home he found nothing left of his home. T.v.s ripped from the wall, a stake knife took to his mattress that was left on the floor. She had taken everything but a table and 4 chairs. The food in the cupboards were ransacked. The next day my brother woke up to 4 officers in his bedroom. His wife had locksmithed the door, and invited her family and the officers inside to take what was left. My brothers dog was pepper sprayed. After asking the officers to leave they cornered him in the kitchen and told him they had every right to do what they were doing. So he called his lawyer and was told to start taking pictures. Shortly after everyone inside left, the officers were even helping carry boxes out the door. My brother stood in the doorway and begged them not to let her take his car, and they let her.

Things only got worse from there power was shut off to his home more then once along with water and his car ins. canceled. After almost a year in the courts an agrrement was met to give my brother the debt, the house and his dog if he walked away and promised not to sue. After months of taking care of her son he aggreed and soon after her son moved out, taking with him the last remaining items my brother had left. a laptop that my brother used for work and for paying bills. A week later my brother went to pull money from the bank to pay bills for the month, that to was taken. Over 900 in a week and 700 the week the son left. All planned out by his wife.
He truly had nothing but the clothes on his back, and what teeth he had left from a beating I wont get into, and his dog.

At the court date to sign everything, my brother was to get his car back that he had been paying on while she had it. Attepts to get this car back to him only fell short, due to the self interests of the officers in the town that had strings pulled by the family.

As we walked out of the court house we seen his car on a flatbed. my brother just droped his head as he asked the driver what was going on, knowing deep in his heart what had happened. She had called and used his money to have the car repoed. Telling the company they no longer needed it. At this point my brother had little fight left in him. The months of tears sitting alone in a empty house im sure huanted him. He just wanted to move on.

He met a young girl around his age she comforted him. He found a new family and friends. Fathered his first child after years of trying, but it wasnt over yet. His ex wife still had more to dish. A lawyer shows up at the door with a "worker of the court" telling my brother he is losing his house and his dog, to that my brother says "ill do anything, take the house ill replace it but please don't take my dog", "She had been there for me when no one elese would". She held me when I cried. She woke me in the morning when she took it all away, and she cryed with me when there was no food.
Weeks went by and my brother did everything he could to save her, so with much regret he placed her in a home with people that would take care of her and maybe someday let him vist. They loaded up her dog toys dish and the kennel. My brother could hardly get the words to thank them out before the weight of yet another hurt delt to him took hold. He balled for hours as I did my best to comfort him. He had lost everything, that took years to build.

  He is now starting a new life. He has a newborn son, and hope. He has found a house on a little land, and is working hard to build his dream back up. He has less then 3 weeks to save up the money to move on before the court order takes afftect. Times are tight and I wanted to reach out to him and to people he has helped in the past to maybe give him the brake he needs and deserves to move on. Please if you would like to contact me to help him in anyway, or would just honestly like to put a face to the story please feel free to email me and id gladly share the info.

I hope this story brings hope to some, and also show others that are ungreatful of the help they get, hear how much worse it could really be. My brother has never asked for help or recieved foodstamps or anything from the state as far as aid. He has been laid off from his good paying job for 9 months. He writes a weekly blog to share his deep feelings with his family and friends and never once asked for help. But today I am going to try to find him the brake he has been needing. If it's diapers for his newborn or a little bit of money ill take it and pass it along to the greatest man I have ever known. he is my hero. Feel free to repost this and help my brother

Thank you for your time,
His loving Sister

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